Dance Class

We have a date December 27, 2008 and we have a theme, Winter Snowflake. The colors will be silver, sapphire blue and white, no surprise for any one. The decorations are taken care of for the most part. I want to make some beaded snowflakes to add to the reception. We plan to have a candle light Service. Because the Church has few windows the service can still be held around 2 in the afternoon.

Mike and I are taking dance lessons. I have always dreamed of dancing at my wedding and I am so happy that Mike is willing to do this for me.
Dance class is fun so far. We have only been once and after my initial melt down, because I was not getting it fast enough, the teacher was really great and slowed things down for me. It turns out that Mike and I both need to take things slower. It is really cool that we are at the same level. While the rest of the class was doing there thing Mike and I were working on our box step.

This may sound boring to the rest of you but I could not stop beaming at Mike. I felt like I was glowing I was so happy to just dance in a square holding Mike’s hands. I don’t think I have ever felt as in love or as close to Mike as I did at that moment. We would trip and start giggling at each other and it was the most wonderful feeling in the whole world.

The teacher would have us come back in from time to time when the rest of the class was also doing a box step variation but going back to our remedial box step really helped my confidence in letting go and following Mikes lead. Just taking the time to relax and train the muscles to know which foot to use depending on what signal mike gives makes a big difference. I really like not having to be in control all of the time.

I find that a bit of a surprise as I tend to be a control freak. I think I am a control freak because I think I have to be not because I want to be. I like being able to trust someone else to lead and take care of me for a change.

I think I begin to understand what it is talking about in the bible when they say that the wife is to obey. It is not that she is an unthinking slave but that a good marriage is like a dance. I you both try to lead you will trip over each other and crash. So the man leads as he is the one with the physical strength to guard you from getting hurt and the lady follows, if she chooses. It is always her choice to follow.

If she does follow you can have a beautiful dance together. That does not mean he will never trip or allow her to stumble but he does his best. If the frame is strong she can support him when he trips just as he supports her when she trips and they can protect each other. Even when she does follow she has the ability to communicate and make the dance more or less than it is. It boils down to team work and constant communication.

Talk about your group therapy! I think dance class, especially ballroom dance class, can do as much for people looking at getting it into a long term relationship or marriage as many of the communication courses or couples classes offered today and has the added benefit of being a good work out and a lot of fun.